For children, transitions, whether big or small, can feel overwhelming. The shift from home to daycare, moving from one activity to another, or even the change of seasons can bring uncertainty, anxiety, or resistance. As educators, we see it every day, the child who finds goodbyes at drop-off a challenge, the group that takes time to settle after lunch, or the anxiety that builds up amongst parents and children as kindergarten approaches.
While change is inevitable, how we support children through these transitions matters. With the right strategies, we can create predictability, comfort, and emotional security, helping children build resilience and approach new experiences with confidence.
Unlike adults, young children lack a developed sense of time and struggle with anticipating what comes next. Their world is built on routine and familiarity, and any disruption, no matter how small, can feel unsettling. Transitions often trigger big emotions, which can show up as resistance, meltdowns, or difficulty focusing.
Additionally, change can bring a sense of loss, whether it's leaving a favorite activity, saying goodbye to a caregiver, or adjusting to a new schedule. These emotions are completely normal, but without guidance, they can make transitions challenging for both children and educators.
So, how can we help children feel secure during transitions?
For younger children, consider using transition objects (such as a special toy or card) that signal "what's next" and provide comfort during change.
For example, before a big change, read a story about a character experiencing the same transition. You can also create personalized social stories with real photos of the child’s new classroom, teacher, or daily routine to help ease anxieties.
Here are a few of my favourite stories to read for transitioning into kindergarten:
"The Kissing Hand" – Audrey Penn
A beautiful story about a young raccoon, Chester, who is nervous about leaving his mother for school. She shares a special secret, a kiss on his hand, that he can carry with him throughout the day. This book is perfect for children feeling separation anxiety.
"Miss Bindergarten Gets Ready for Kindergarten" – Joseph Slate
This fun and colorful book introduces children to a lively kindergarten class as they get ready for their first day. It helps kids visualize what to expect in a playful and engaging way.
"The Night Before Kindergarten" – Natasha Wing
Modeled after the classic "The Night Before Christmas," this book follows children as they prepare for their first day of kindergarten, helping to normalize the jitters and excitement that come with new beginnings.
"Llama Llama Misses Mama" – Anna Dewdney
A relatable story about separation anxiety, as Llama Llama learns that even though his mama leaves, she always comes back. It reassures children that their feelings are valid and that school can be a fun place.
"We Don’t Eat Our Classmates" – Ryan T. Higgins
This humorous book follows a dinosaur named Penelope Rex as she navigates making friends and learning classroom rules. It’s a great way to talk about social skills and being kind to new classmates.
"Kindergarten, Here I Come!" – D.J. Steinberg
A collection of short, playful poems about all the milestones of kindergarten, riding the bus, meeting the teacher, learning the alphabet, making the transition fun and exciting.
"How to Be Kind in Kindergarten" – D.J. Steinberg
A simple yet powerful book that teaches children how to be kind, share, and make friends in their new classroom, reinforcing social-emotional skills.
"School’s First Day of School" – Adam Rex
This unique and charming book is told from the perspective of the school itself, which is also nervous about welcoming students. It’s a great way to shift the focus and create empathy for all the "firsts" happening that day.
"Butterflies on the First Day of School" – Annie Silvestro
A lovely book that addresses nervous feelings as "butterflies in the tummy," showing children that excitement and nerves are normal and that new friendships and experiences make it all worth it.
"My First Day of Kindergarten" – Kristen Hall
A sweet and interactive book with flaps and surprises that help young readers explore all the fun things they’ll experience in kindergarten.
For children who need extra preparation, consider a countdown approach giving reminders at 10, 5, and 2 minutes before a change. Or 3, 2, and 1 month before the change.
Connection reassures children that their needs are seen, making transitions smoother and less resistant.
Using familiar songs to mark transitions builds consistency and helps children associate changes with something positive.
Validating their feelings while gently guiding them forward makes transitions feel safer.
Encourage parents to mirror classroom routines at home (e.g., bedtime stories about upcoming changes, practicing morning goodbyes) to reinforce predictability.
Digital tools can make transition planning more effective and transparent. Platforms like Parent App provide:
By integrating structured routines, supportive conversations, and digital tools, we can create a smoother experience for children navigating change.
Transitions are a natural part of growth, but they don’t have to be stressful. When we meet children where they are, provide predictability, and offer emotional support, we help them develop the skills to navigate change with confidence.
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